I write about the meaning of our sexual fantasies in my latest book, “The Quest.” In it, I mention renowned sex therapist Robert Stoller and his insightful observation that our porn preferences reveal our personal myths—our life stories—things we have repressed, our attachment styles, our […]
Author: randy
Encouraging people to find out who they are so they can live their lives fully.
Books I…
BOOK I HATE: “The Purpose Driven Life” by Rick Warren BOOK I THINK IS OVERRATED: “The Road” by Cormac McCarthy BOOK I THINK IS UNDERRATED: “Elderhood” by Louise Aronson BOOK I LOVE: “The Magus” by John Fowles BOOK I CAN READ OVER AND OVER AGAIN: […]
What Kind of Reader Are You?
Growing up in a hyper-religious ultra-conservative old-time pentecostal preacher’s home, the only place I found to call my own without fearing ridicule for my ridiculous crewcut and out-of-style clothing, in the rebellious world of the seventies where bell bottoms, tie-dyed t-shirts, and long hair were […]
The Making of an Atheist (My Trajectory from Evangelical Minister to Enlightened Humanist)
The journey to enlightenment is invariably complicated, tracing a winding and sometimes traumatic path with many forks and detours along the way. I did not ultimately turn against religion or become a critic of its most prominent leaders simply because they fell short of my […]
Peace Like A River
Although I sang this lyric countless times as a child and during my thirty-year career as a music/arts director, primarily in mega-churches, I never truly experienced peace as a Christian. My primary emotions were negative: guilt, fear, anxiety, shame, and judgment. The first moment in […]
Eight Books I Wish I Had Read Much Earlier In Life
We live in a world of media over-saturation—tens of thousands of streaming movie options, thousands of TV series, Facebook, Instagram, TikTok, Twitter, and so many others. It may be hard to believe that my childhood home had ZERO computers, televisions, or cell phones. Yet, with […]
To Gina On Our Tenth Anniversary
It has been a wild ride! And I would not trade this decade of happiness together for anything in the world. Every moment has been priceless—well, there may have been a few days we would not want to repeat when we were carving out a […]
I Took A Trip Yesterday
Often I wonder why some of us are allowed to live a charmed life. Yesterday was one of the most significant days of my six decades on earth. I never cease to be amazed that we live in a world where I can wake up […]
Search for Best Sandwich in Tampa Bay (#8)
Next! The eighth tasting is the Cuban Sandwich at La Segunda Bakery. Gina joined me for the forty-minute drive to the restaurant. We had a bit of a surprise when we arrived in Ybor City and walked in—there was nowhere to sit—it was a legit […]
Search for Best Sandwich Tampa Bay (#7)
Next! The seventh tasting is the Cucumber Sandwich at William Dean Chocolates’ Afternoon Tea. Gina joined me. It was a fifteen-minute drive to the restaurant. I have never had a cucumber sandwich, and in fact, I did not know there was such a thing. But […]